I’m really glad I was able to write my last post before we received news about all the latest celebrity deaths. I wouldn’t want to be mistaken for someone so shallow. I’ve been pretty miffed about this ever since I read it, and I’m sure it’s mostly the fact that I can’t post a comment on her blog post without signing up for open salon. If I were going to be making a positive comment, I would be more inclined to sign up but since I’d be signing up only to disagree with her it makes me want to sign up even less.
Please don’t misunderstand, she makes very valid points but it’s her attitude that gets me riled up. Why are we always so concerned about what other feel and do? Why do we feel the need to control them? Why does it have to be one or the other? Why can’t people mourn MJ if they want to? Why does mourning MJ mean that they don’t care about the rest of the world? It’s not that black and white. I do agree it’s sickening, but there’s no need to be judemental – we’ve all been shallow at one point or another in our lives. There are better ways to inspire people to care about those who really matter without making other people feel small for their choice in what they want to mourn.
And don’t mistake my defense of these people to mean that I am one of them, I’m not. And no one close to my heart is one of them either, this is an honest reaction to people being judgemental and feeling holier-than-thou better than the rest of us just because they care about things that ‘truly matter’. It’s what I dislike about my church and the reason why I stopped going; there’s a hypocrisy present when you choose to be understanding and extra-caring about people just because you feel they can’t defend or help themselves yet are willing to look down on people who don’t share your exact perspective. True understanding would involve understanding all those around you, and especially those who seem to be completely different from you.
Sure, I don’t understand why people feel the need to get together and collectively mourn the loss of someone they thought they knew but I don’t think of them as any less for doing so.
I know this post seems extremely unlike me, but I have been thinking a lot about this since I read her blog post a few days ago and I just can’t seem to let it go. I’m tired of people wanting to change the world but fail to realise that its their own attitudes that are preventing the change they so desperately desire. I prefer not to be controversial, and I certainly prefer not to impose my beliefs on other people but for one reason or another I just couldn’t let this go.