Best friend
What does it mean to be a best friend? It means sharing everything, right down to your last thoughts of the day. It means knowing that when you’re home on a Friday night, there will be someone available to call and invite over for a last minute movie. It means that no matter how stupid, you’ll know someone will listen to your whining.
Being someone’s best friend doesn’t mean thinking they’re the best person all the time. It doesn’t mean that you’ll always agree with them either. It doesn’t mean that you’ll always like her choice for a boyfriend. But it does mean that she can always count on you to1 be there for her.
As I grew older, I realised what I had been doing wrong all this time when looking for a ‘best friend’, I was looking for someone I could stand to be with at all times. Someone I’d never fight with, or have to fight with. But obviously, that’s impossible… being bestfriends is not about being able to avoid arguments, its still being there even after things take a turn for the worse.
We haven’t quite we’ve found each other yet, but I’m pretty sure we’ve already met. There are a few contenders, and I’m not limiting myself to one, I’m just glad I’ve finally realised what it means to be or have a bestfriend. I used to think it was as easy as growing up with someone and having something in common2 with them. But I now know that like anything that is worthwhile it requires work, dedication, and determination.
I’m sure there are many reasons my life has turned out the way that it has, and I’d like to think that the reason I focused so much on ‘boys’ when I was younger was because I wasn’t ready for a responsibility as big as keeping a bestfriend. I may be too ‘old’ to have come to this realisation, but I know I’m ready.
Do you have a bestfriend? How long have you been bestfriends? What makes that person your bestfriend? Will you be bestfriends forever?3
August 28th, 2008 at 02:50
I agree. My best friend is the wife. She’s my foundation. I guess I do have a best friend!
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August 27th, 2008 at 20:14
I have a bestfriend and we’ve been friends for more than 25 years now and I think we’ll be friends forever. She’s my exact opposite but we mesh well.
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August 27th, 2008 at 17:02
I met my best friend when I was 18. He moved into our neighbourhood and I knocked on their door to ask if he had Amiga. (he first thought I was insane for doing that) Since then we were together every day. (until we go families). I drank my first beer with him, did silly stuff that I can’t write on internet, we quarrel because we’re equally stubborn and are kind of very different from each other. But yet we are like hand in glove.
I hope we are friends for life, we doesn’t see each other as much now but when we do its like we met the day before. No problem catching up. We can talk about anything, no need to hide anything, no intrigues except when he have our short quarrels. Like which is most intelligent, cats or dogs.
We laugh about it afterwords.
August 27th, 2008 at 15:32
In such a spread out world as we live in today a “best friend” is a hard commodity to hold on to. Still there are people who just make us feel right. Sometimes it can be as simple as they look they give you – even if it’s a look delivered “over the phone.” Pauses between words delivered like little innuendos… that allow us to see each other in the minds eye even if it’s not with the naked eye.
Sometimes it’s obvious to see who are best friends are… and then again sometimes a best friend is like the proverbial pearl… years slip by and suddenly you realize they’re still there. Listening and sometimes smiling when you mention a name and say something like “oh yeah that guy… I remember when he used to ride over to see you on a bicycle – as I recall you had purple hair then.” Sometimes it takes a while to recognize who some of our “best friends” are but the best thing about a best friend is that they are patient. Incredibly patient.
Of course finding girls with purple hair and poetry in their soul makes the wait worthwhile .-)
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August 27th, 2008 at 14:23
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August 27th, 2008 at 12:40
My best friend isn’t my type of a girl, though. So it differs in each person.
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August 27th, 2008 at 10:17
My first best friend is my wife. My second one is my dog. My password is ******* too!
August 27th, 2008 at 08:41
@france: You’re very welcome and welcome to fragileheart.com too. Glad you like my pictures – stay tuned for this week’s Flickr Friday!
@CK: That’s a great sentiment; and definitely one of the things I like about some of the people that I feel are contenders to being my best friend
@france: Oops.. I keep forgetting to write a note somewhere on the blog that if your comment doesn’t show up it’s been held under moderation. Thanks for commenting again
@Trench: That’s still the same concept I would apply to a bestfriend, I guess bestfriend is just a more extreme and ultimate term whereas close friend might be more realistic. Glad to hear you’ve got people who’ve got your back!
August 27th, 2008 at 04:16
I’m not really into the whole “BEST FRIEND” deal. It just sounds kinda strange to me.
I do have a couple really “close friends” however. They are the people who will jump at a minutes notice even if its 3am and I need their help. They’ll drop everything to listen to me when I need to be listened to. They’ll lend me a couple thousand dollars without any questions knowing I will pay it back.
I have a friend whom I’ve known since we were six years old. We are 30 now and still keep in contact quite often. Its pretty cool.
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August 27th, 2008 at 03:37
Hi there. Thanks for responding to my post yesterday. I was able to arrive home safely and dry. By the way, what’s your e-mail address? That’s if it’s all right with you of course.
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