4 disasters that just aren”t.

We have all been there. Something just happened that could mean the end of the world as you know it, and while I was sitting in the car on the way to work one morning, It dawned on me to start a collection of these “disasters”. Here is a list of what I have come up with so far. I hope that someone, somewhere can read this and learn that sometimes bad things happen and it does not have to mean the end of the world… no matter how much it hurts right now.

If you have any to add, please feel free to do so in the comments or you can always email me using contact [at] fragileheart [dot] com.

  1. Your sibling breaks your favourite toy1.
    Ok, so this one is a bit of a no-brainer but I had to start small. Besides which, this can still happen when you are older… say your parents are thinking of moving out of your family home and into a smaller or larger place since its just the two of them. So you are all in the garage or wherever you store your childhood memories and your brother starts goofing around with your favourite toy2, then suddenly… crash. And its gone in a blink of an eye.
    You are not sure what just happened and you are in shock. Your sibling is laughing at your face as hot tears are running down your face. So you run off and slam the garage door and scream into your bed. But a few years later, you realise that while you are still sad about not having your favourite toy anymore, the sweet memories you had with the item will last your entire lifetime – and that is something your sibling will ever be able to smash into a million pieces3.
  2. Your clothes got ruined in the laundry.
    This usually happens when you are still living at home; you have just started working but you are not quite ready to flee the nest. Even if you are going away to University or College, you will still go home some weekend with one of your favourite4 sweaters and your Mum shrinks it, stains it or just plain ruins it. You are livid! You scream and you cry profanities5 at your Mum that have probably hurt her more than you really wanted to.
    Years later, you realise its all material and that your Mum is more precious than any ol” sweater so you spend the remainder of your years trying to make up for all the horrible things you said that day.
  3. You get dumped for the first time.
    I say “get dumped” because your heart does not necessarily break the first time you get dumped6. It still feels horrible, because rejection is hard to deal with; especially when our emotions are amplified like they seem to be in our adolescent years ((hoping this is when you first get rejected and not in your late 20s to mid-30s?)). But in your later years, you will realise that all those times you have gotten dumped has only helped you become the confident person that you are now7.
  4. The service at a restaurant is appalling.
    I have seen this happen too many times to count. It is so easy to allow the service at a restaurant or bar to affect your evening, when really8 it should be the company you are keeping that defines how great the night is. You huff and you puff but you are not going to blow the house down; because at the end of the night you will be leaving the restaurant and could choose to never go back there again – but you have to face your friends over and over again. Unless you are on a date, in which case it is an even worse idea to allow the service to ruin your night – your focus should be on your date9

Can you think of some other “disasters?”

  1. substitue toy for any fave object from childhood[]
  2. barbie”s car maybe?[]
  3. unless you live IN a sci-fi movie, then I can not help you[]
  4. often expensive[]
  5. actually, I hope not[]
  6. admittedly, it feels that way but we all know the worst is still to come – oh shit, did I say this was supposed to make you feel better?[]
  7. assuming you allow it of course, this is not a guaranteed result[]
  8. unless you are dining alone[]
  9. for goodness sake! Did I really have to point that out to you?[]

responses to “4 disasters that just aren”t.” 5

  1. Missing the bus. Luckily (even though it is a very cold day) there will be another bus in half an hour. The problem is relying on that fact and suddenly realizing the time has flown by and you are now irrevocably late. 🙂

    Glad to see you back on CMF too. Missed you there.
    .-= Laura´s last blog ..Try Something New =-.

  2. I was so happy the first time I got dumped.

    I felt, ”There I”ve done it, seen a little relationship right through and now I”m Free”.

    As you might infer, it wasn”t such a big deal. 🙂

  3. Working in schools has made me realize that although we think we had it soooo easy as kids – we totally didn”t! We just had different stresses and worries. Kids come to me crying about things I wouldn”t even bat an eyelash at – ie. their finger hurting, their friend has a secret and won”t tell them what it is… and sometimes big things too, because kids can be sooo mean to each other especially at the schools I”ve been to in rougher areas of Toronto. Honestly some of those kids go through fighting/swearing/generally tough situations in one day than I go through in a year.

  4. I just noticed on your ”reading” list, you are reading Erich Fromm. Are you enjoying it?? I have an audiobook which I haven”t got around to listening too yet but it seems like he has some interesting philosophy.
    .-= Penny´s last blog ..February Photos ‘10 Part II =-.

  5. I am absolutely terrible of blowing up and thinking something is the end of the world. I”ve even come to learn about myself that within literally minutes I could look back and think ”what was I even worrying about?!” – I just have a very stupid temper and everything turns to black within a second. This can definitely happen with examples like the restaurant – but you are so true that you don”t need to go back, but you DO need to face family & friends in future! That is definitely one to remember.

    You”re right about the breakup too. I look back on those as real experiences. My last one did leave me with some pretty bad scars (it”s when I started to develop social anxiety which I still have), but even the scars have made me more aware of myself and my life and the kind of person I want to be.
    .-= Penny´s last blog ..February Photos ‘10 Part II =-.

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