Going through the motions with sincere apologies
For the first time since I can remember, I am the depressing one this Christmas. I can only hope this means that the rest of the world is happy this time of year. I have this belief that my mood largely depends on the rest of the world; when it’s sad I’m ecstatic and when it’s happy I tend to get depressed. Why? I believe it’s because there is something inside of me that needs to see a balance in the world. Obviously in this belief I also have a huge ego to think that my little mood changes could actually make a difference but go with me here.
This Christmas is a pretty painful one and each day that passes only makes it harder. I’m not sure I want to admit that it’s because I’m sad that I’m not celebrating it with my ex1. Not that I would still want to be with him, but you have to understand that for the last five years I’ve spent Christmas with him. Or at the very least, I’ve spent New Year’s with him. They weren’t always pleasant, in fact the first was down right heart breaking but the point is that we were together. Despite everything, I still thought that I would always be spending my future Christmases with him. I never expected this.
I didn’t expect this pain. Not now, not ever. I want to apologise to everyone who sent me their mailing addresses for Christmas cards but I honestly haven’t had the energy to write them. I’ve bought the cards because that was easy, but sitting still is difficult. Even writing this post has been done in one to two minute intervals because I just can’t sit still for fear that I’ll just break down crying. I might still send them… but it won’t get to you before Christmas and I’m sorry2.
Christmas is my favourite time of year, most years. This year… this year, I just want to crawl into a hole and forget it ever existed. Please write me about how happy your Christmases are this year because I need to know that it’s happy for everyone else. I need to know the world is balanced and that not everyone is feeling as shitty as I am. I know that some of you3 are concerned for me now but honestly I know I will be ok, I just need to hear of your happiness and all will be right with me.
Please tell me you’re happy, dear readers. I need you.
December 26th, 2009 at 06:56
Merry Christmas Reggie! Hang in there darling! WE ALL LOVE YOU!!!!
December 26th, 2009 at 01:14
Sorry for that Reggy… I just think he should have found a way.
Greggy
December 26th, 2009 at 00:22
Sigh, I don’t think I ever relly liked the bastard anyway. (Reggy I just deleted three long paragraphs.)
Reggy?
Reggy I love you… I would guess just about everyone here loves you.
Just because you are “you”
so my name may as well be legion because I know I’m not alone here.
You’re easy to love, because
you are… beautiful, sincere, trusting (too trusting maybe) because one upon a time you had purple hair, and you dreamed of riding white horses through the snow (or was that me dreaming you were riding white horses through the snow?)
Probably it was me… now I remember it was me – you just laughed.
Merry Christmas Reggy … despite everything you are loved deeply.
Greggy
(My Christmas was… quiet.)
((P.S. buddyboy if you’re reading this all I can say is “what a dumbass!”))
December 25th, 2009 at 21:54
Reggy, very sorry to hear you are going through this right now. It’s totally normal and happens to everyone (at least in one form or another), but it still sucks. You will make it to the other side. It just takes time.
Per your instructions, I will share my holiday happiness with you. I had a nice dinner out and exchanging of gifts with my boyfriend’s family the other night, and a nice couple of days at home with my entire immediate family (my parents + my 3 sisters). No major fighting… yet. I’ve made lots of tasty holiday treats (for the first time) to share with everyone and it’s been really nice to put smiles on everyone’s faces as they eat them. Also, all gifts exchanged have been a big success.
December 24th, 2009 at 04:47
It’s completely allowed for you to feel this way sometimes. Sometimes you just need to, I think. Let yourself relax and forget about trying to please everyone else. For now enjoy the food and the drink! Sometimes you need to wallow for a little while xx
December 23rd, 2009 at 00:09
No one is as happy at the holidays as the claymation tells us we should be. And that’s okay.
So enjoy the moments as you can. Start some new traditions. Do some cool things for yourself.
December 22nd, 2009 at 17:24
@The Story: Thanks hun. Having meaningless sex is proving difficult these days for reasons I’d rather not get into (but yes it involves another person). But thank you for your kind words.
@Eri: Have I told you lately that I love you? How do I not talk to you more often? You are my first real smile from this dark mood that I’ve been in. Thank you.
@Periapex: You are my second smile
Thank you.
December 22nd, 2009 at 16:34
Sounds like you’re in the mood for a racy boudoir-type shoot…
December 22nd, 2009 at 12:30
Don’t apologize for something as trivial as a christmas card. Besides, didn’t you know they’re called holiday / new year cards now?
I bought cards but don’t think I’ll get around to sending more than a handful.
Sometimes crawling into a hole and being sad is just what you need to do. Bring chocolate, cookies, a good book, whatever you need to make your hole the comfiest there can be. And remember that there are people waiting for you when you are ready to emerge like a butterfly from your cocoon.
xoxo
December 22nd, 2009 at 12:18
Aww sorry to hear darling… There is no way you should be lonley given your beauty inside and out… Shoot, I’d be happy as heck to have a beautiful woman like you with me… Cheer up… He wasn’t meant to be. I learned that a few times… Sometimes the best way to get over is to get on not just to get along but really get on with it. Jump on Love train, lust train, one nighter train just to get the rythm back into your soul… Just keep going forward
Besos XOXO
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