A lot of people are afraid. They’re so afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings that they never stop to think that they might be helping that person by telling them the truth.
I’m taking a break from breast cancer awareness to talk about something that has affected me since I was able to make friends1.
I’m a very understanding person; provided you give me something to understand. If not I’m not going to assume things for you. If someone doesn’t want to be my friend, I think they should just tell me. I don’t think they should pretend to be my friend when it suits them and then ignore me when I try and make contact.
I will admit I’m horrible at keeping in touch and I shouldn’t expect to be able to talk to someone whenever it tickles my fancy. But replying to an email is not that difficult, even if I haven’t called in months. Besides, why should I be the only one to call – its not like they’ve made any effort! I’ve left hundreds of combined voicemail, email and facebook messages for them and its more than what they’ve done. I think I at least deserve an answer when I ask you whether the reason you aren’t coming to a party I’m hosting is the distance.
I’m sure there’s something that irks me more than being ignored, but not at this very moment. And maybe I’m over-reacting and they’ll get around to responding to me eventually but they were quick enough to decline the invitation online; I was hoping for similar speed in a response. Maybe it’ll be easier if people know that I can take ‘rejection’ as long as you’re not crass about it. You can tell me you don’t want to be my friend, just don’t tell me you think I smell like puke2.
I don’t believe that everyone should be best friends with each other, but I do believe that everyone deserves to know the truth.
What do you think?