Living without facebook: a log.

Warning: This is a very long post. I know I’ve said that I don’t do long posts but… well… its a feakin’ log. What do you want from me?

So I decided sometime in the evening on Ash Wednesday1 2009 to deactivate my facebook account. The decision was not that hard, and my movements were swift. I hesitated only to read the fine print on the deactivation page, then quickly selected “This is temporary. I’ll be back” as my reason for doing so. There was no point in lying about it, I knew I couldn’t live without it forever. Below is my thoughts/tribulations/report on my progress until such time that I break this fast:

Thu, Feb 27 @ 12:32: So far so good. I’ve only almost clicked on my bookmark once. I did realise though that I was entirely too reliant on facebook to look for people to go out with. So I resorted to email and text messages. Next, I might actually make a phone call2.

14:49: Um. I’m craving cookies. I never crave cookies and I’m blaming my decision to quit facebook cold turkey for this craving. I can’t even have cookies because I gave up junk food for lent. Thank goodness for clementines3.

16:55: Its the end of the day and I’m winding down from work mode. This is usually another key time that I check up on my facebook account. I haven’t gone crazy yet but I am still craving cookies. Will be eating plenty of smartfood later today. Gah.

20:43: I only managed to stay away for this long because I was out running errands and then having dinner. And damn American Idol has taken over CTV tonight so CSI has been pushed to 9pm and there is no Grey’s Anatomy4. We ate early so that I could start watching my shows at 8… and now I have to wait until 9. I’m itching to activate my account but… I must… resist.

I actually had to log in earlier because I realised that someone that I had just found didn’t have my contact information and we’re trying to plan for me to visit her out west5 but I was in and out like a woman cheating on Jenny Craig with McDonald’s. Has it been 40 days yet?

Also, I’ve deleted my bookmarks to avoid further tempation.

Fri, Feb 27 @ 10:15: I had a teensy bit of work to look after when I got in this morning. It lasted about an hour and now I’m itching. I’m trying to find someone *else* to take to a DJ gig in the third week of March and no one in my email list or phone list would go with me. I would usually resort to looking for someone on facebook… but… I cut off that life line didn’t I? Gah.

The problem is that pre-sale tickets are only $25. They will most likely be $35 in a week or so and $45 if purchased at the door6. I would prefer to find someone now. I could buy my ticket and hope to find someone to go with. I could go on my own7 or I could sell my ticket the night of, but I’d rather not be stuck doing that.

16:04: Huh? Huh? I did well no? Actually, I was pretty busy with work today so I didn’t have time to think about facebook. But alas, here we are near the end of the day again. Being Friday, obviously my ‘wind-down’ starts a bit earlier. Also, I found someone to go to the DJ gig with me which eliminated my ‘need’ to contact anyone else on facebook. Yay!

Tue, Mar 3 @ 16:47: I know it may seem like I’ve gone a few days without thinking of facebook but its a complete farce. The weekend was a little easier to live without facebook because I wasn’t sitting at a desk for the entire day. Also, I had to reformat the laptop so when I was at home I wasn’t able to sit at the computer and do anything except click ‘Next >’.

I’ve gotten a few messages from people who have said they miss me on facebook, and it pulled at my heart but I had to stay strong. I have discovered though who some of my favourites are. They are people in my real life who appreciate my love for my blog and have crossed the boundary of commenting on my posts. You know who you are and I have mad love for you.

23:32: I’m about to go to bed and for some reason, all I want to do is log in and see if anyone has posted any pictures up. I believe the phrase is, “What the fuck?!”

Fri, Mar 6 @ 13:25: I’m laughing because people have only started to notice that I am not on facebook anymore. People who usually try to arrange things via facebook messaging or events8. I’ve already considered going back because I want to organise a karaoke night a week from now. But I’ve decided to try email first. If that doesn’t work in the next day or two, I’ll start using the phone. *gasp* What is happening to me?!

Mon, Mar 9 @ 23:33: Don’t think I was some sort of super-woman to have been able to stay away from the log and facebook for the entire weekend. Oh no. I am no super-anything… except maybe super-addicted. I only managed to stay off both because I was on twitter for the entire weekend. And I decided to clean up my music files. I almost gave it again tonight because someone invited me to a super secret event that they were organising through facebook9 but lucky for me they agreed to include me via email! I can’t wait either – its going to be such a rocking good time.

Wed, Mar 17 @ 23:44: Ok so its been more than a week since I’ve logged anything regarding facebook… I think it has more to do with the fact that I’ve managed to keep myself busy without turning to facebook for social interaction. And really, that was the whole point of this exercise in the first place so I guess I can say that I’ve succeeded. Either that or the drinks I’ve had for 2009’s St. Patrick’s day have finally kicked in and I have no idea what I’m talking about… 😉

Fri, Mar 20 @ 15 :47: I really want to go back on facebook now. But at the same time I’ve had such a relaxed time away from it that I’m not sure I ever want to go back. Sure there is a void in those moments that I’m bored10, and I wonder if its enough to make me go back. I think not wanting to miss out on events would be the biggest reason to go back – since that is apparently the new way the world wants to organise events. I got a text from an old friend who never logs into facebook stating that he almost forgot to invite me to his birthday celebration because I wasn’t on facebook. WTF?! What is this world coming to?

Tue, Mar 24 @ 14:35: Ok so it’s official. The one thing that sucks about living without facebook these days is that most people use it as the chosen method to organise events. I’m trying to organise a karaoke night this coming weekend and I can think of about 6 other people I could add to my list if I were still on facebook. I’m tempted to log back in just to take down their email addresses but I know I’ll be tempted to look for other updates if I do. I must be strong!

Footnotes:
  1. February 25[]
  2. blasphemy![]
  3. gag[]
  4. I’m screaming bloody MURDER here!![]
  5. Ooh a trip outside of Ontario but within Canada![]
  6. if not more[]
  7. The people that go to these gigs always leave you alone as soon as you say no anyway[]
  8. so basically, people like me[]
  9. damnit, why does everyone do that?![]
  10. all though I’m usually only bored if I do silly things like skip Hot Yoga[]

responses to “Living without facebook: a log.” 8

  1. For inviting people and organising events without having to add people to facebook, there are at least two websites that work really well: evite.com and anyvite.com

    Periapexs latest..The Effects of Atmospheric Pressure.

  2. Never had a facebook accnt. And don’t plan on creating one either.

    But breaks from anything/everything are always good. Breaks give us time to think about ourselves and prioritize our actions.

  3. I signed up several weeks ago and have been enjoying using it. Luckily I haven’t become too obsessed with it but log in enough to keep up with everyone.

    Welcome back! I hope you are back posting frequently again.

    erins latest..Mighty Girl

  4. reg!!!!!!!!!!! hello! am back. well from visiting your blog i mean. been out and about with work and haven’t really had time to get back in the online world until recently. anyway, so no fb huh… well, i guess it should be okay. just practice siguro. i had a friend reset my pw and although i could reset it again, i tried to live without it for awhile sometime last year. that and friendster, and multiply and my blog even. parang online holiday so i could focus on other things. except emails. was tough to get out and tough to get back in but worth it. 🙂 good luck and miss you loads.

  5. I opened a Facebook account but never used it, so I do not really know what you are talking about. I did however, go through something similar when I decided to quit Plurk. These things do become addictive.

    Have not heard from you in a while, welcome back.

    Lyndis latest..Sunday Summary – 12 April 2009

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