Don’t let the door hit you on your way out, 2013!

Well, I guess that’s it. Isn’t it? This year is finally behind us. I’ve never looked forward for a year to end so much as I have this year. This year was the worst year out of all the years of life. And yet a lot of wonderful things happened1; I guess it just goes to show that there is always good that will come out of a bad situation. I just wish there had been more good this year than bad.

The things I wish to never forget about 2013:

1. That time I was in the pilot episode of a reality TV show called, Come Date With Me on the W Network.

Still from Come Date With Me Canada

2. Being auctioned off at Love a Heart2. Photo credit: Chris Luckhardt.

Facebook Events | Love a Heart

3. Stage Managing for Canadian Music Week and meeting #LeBeau, Garret3.

Canadian Music Week Stage Manager

4. Stage Managing for North By North East and meeting Sloan. Sorry no pictures.
5. Getting a brand new family member, Drogo.

Drogo Sy!

6. Having a custom vine made just for me by Cyrstal Light Canada.

Facebook | Crystal Light Canada | Weird & Wonderful You

7. Assistant Stage Managing for Pride and getting to meet and work with En Vogue.

En Vogue at Pride 2013

8. Going to Cunt Cottage and having an amazing weekend away from the city.

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9. Working for TIFF and getting to see some stars up-close-and-personal-like. No pictures, because I want to be able to work there again in 2014.
10. Going on a boat cruise with Shannon & the gang courtesy of Crazy Uncle. No pictures because I have no idea what I did with the pictures from that cruise. Oops.
11. Volunteering for TEDxToronto4.

TEDxToronto 2013

12. Being in a feature film that won an award at TOIndieFF2013, was part of the official selection at DIFF2013 and reviewed here.

Unhappy Happy Still
13. Working on the 48 hour film project where our team won Best Ensemble Cast.

Hashtag Bougie Productions

13. Meeting and falling in love with #LeBeau’s two daughters5. No pictures, of course. They’re too wittle.
14. Celebrating Christmas with our families and getting 2nd Christmas with the girls. Also no pictures, because I’m a spoil sport like that.
15. Being able to celeberate my birthday & the holidays with some really awesome friends. Again; no pictures, because we didn’t take a group photo and there are too many great ones to choose from.
16. Getting to keep in touch with my wifey, Christine Estima even though she’s a gazillion miles away.

Skyping with the Wifey

Last but not least…
17. Getting to do this fun photoshoot for Ford Canada with the ever-sexy, Ford Fiesta, Marie & Brock.

Date Night with the Ford Fiesta

Shopping fun with Marie & the Ford Fiesta

I’m not at all interested in re-living the past that was this horrible year, so I won’t go into any details about it. I would rather look forward with hope and excitement for what 2014 might have to bring. I can only hope that it’ll be a good year because if my own personal history has taught me anything 2015 is set to be another doozy. You see, there’s something about years that end in zeros and fives – they don’t like me very much. I had a terrible 1995, I can’t say 2000 was any better, 2005 was horrible, 2010 was another nightmare year… mind you, they were all bad for heartbreak but not much else.

Anyway, that’s a whole 365 days away. For now, here’s hoping that in 2014, I…:

  • …no longer have to worry about how I’m going to pay for groceries or laundry.
  • …can actually afford to meet up with friends at least once a week.
  • …find the energy to get off my ass and start exercising again.
  • …will visit my parents and cook for them more often.
  • …will stop worrying about things that I really have no control over.
  • …can reconnect with some old friends who I miss but have drifted away from, for no good reason. And stay connected.
  • …get to go camping twice – once with the family, and once with the man and/or friends.
  • …get to visit somewhere I have never been.
  • …write more for this blog.
  • …learn how to make a Filipino dish I have never made before, but love to eat.

And that’s about it. I had a longer list but I’ve cut it down some in an attempt to be a little more realistic with my resolutions. I didn’t make any resolutions for 2013 because at this age, I’m kind of over them. Since 2013 was such a bad year though, I needed some things to look forward to. And these are some of the more important things I’m looking forward to for this New Year.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

What are you looking forward to in 2014?

Footnotes:
  1. I met Garret this year after all[]
  2. an annual favourite[]
  3. Nope. Not his real name[]
  4. another annual favourite[]
  5. and finally having children in my life. wee![]

Joanna Haughton: one of the hardest working women I know

She writes everyday, takes care of a handful of a baby girl, keeps a wonderful home for her rock star1 husband and manages to look amazing the entire time. Joanna Haughton is an actress, tv hostess and martial artist. I met her through Victoria Murdoch2 and am so glad I have her in my life.

She started writing her blog, Moda Mama, not long after she gave birth to her beautiful baby girl. She recently finished an 85 dress challenge, where3 she had to wear a different dress for 85 days without repeating one. It was partially a way to try to see what she could get rid of from her closet and also a challenge to herself to put together different looks.

I’ve been meaning to write about her since she started the 85 dress challenge but there has been a lot going on in life that kept me from writing on this blog4. If you like fashion delivered by a quirky but amazing sense of humour, visit Moda Mama and get hooked.

Footnotes:
  1. tee hee[]
  2. who is another one who falls into the category of ‘hardest working women I know’[]
  3. just in case it wasn’t clear[]
  4. at all[]

A Very Happy Christmas to all!

This time last year my family and I were in Niagara Falls. We had booked two hotel rooms1 and were there just to go on a trip. It’s my brother’s birthday on Christmas Eve so we try to do something extra special for him every year to make up for the seemingly lack of presents2.

This year we were going to drive over to NYC but then there was an unexpected changes that have prevented us from doing so. Thankfully the withdrawals are a little easier to handle this year. What withdrawals you ask? Allow me to tell you… In 2004, I met, started dating and fell in love with an Irish boy. So much so that Christmas that year I impulsively3 booked a trip to be with him. Even though we broke up in 2005, my delusional love led me to booking another trip out there during the holidays. I would then spend two more Christmasses there after my move in 2006. That’s 4 years of Christmasses spent with some of the most amazingly cheerful, warm and loving people I have ever had the pleasure of spending time with.

People from Toronto are certainly comparable in kindness but there is a certain unspoken understanding by everyone I encountered who loved the season4. There is nothing wrong with the fact that in Toronto there are people who won’t embrace the fact that some people will need to close up shop and celebrate family, love and togetherness5.

In fact, it’s part of what makes Toronto so great: the multiculturalism. It just means that I am going to have to try harder at channelling the same love, acceptance and understanding that I saw in Dublin to those who may not necessarily accept this holiday for what it is. I only hope that you join me in doing the same because whatever the reason the holiday was created – don’t we all need more days where we focus on loving, understanding and accepting one another for all the differences we have?

So my wish for this Christmas is this: Whether or not you believe in Jesus Christ6 just let others be who they want to be and do what they want to do. Unless of course what they want to do is hurt, maim or kill you… then uhm… RUN!

One last thing before I go, I’d like to make a special shout out to my brother: who celebrated his birthday on Christmas Eve7. Sure we make fun of him for being lazy, and for being a computer-game-playing bum but he is a kind, smart, gentle soul and I wish that he gets all that his heart desires8.

And a special thanks to all of you who continue to visit and read despite some serious lack of updates from me. It means the world to me that you enjoy reading my ramblings that I mostly write for self-therapy. Thank you and I wish you lots of love and laughter during this Holiday season.

What is your wish this Christmas?

Footnotes:
  1. one for my parents and one for my brother, cousin and I[]
  2. all things considered[]
  3. no surprise really – I was a terribly impulsive person… I still am… a little bit[]
  4. I am only now slowly reaslising that this is due to the fact that everyone in the south of Dublin would be of the same faith[]
  5. and much more[]
  6. or the man-made rules of the church that he is associated with[]
  7. and who has to celebrate it on this day for the his entire life[]
  8. whatever that may be[]

Sometimes A+B+C = L

Christmas.

Photo courtesy of Svetlana.

What does it mean to you? To me it means a time to remember all the ways you want to be a better person1. In a way, Dec 1st2 marks the beginning of a ‘New Year’. Christmas is about acceptance. Christmas is about respect. Christmas is about love and understanding. Even if you don’t feel like you’re getting a lot of any of these things. Because you should never give of anything of these things with the expectation that you will get any in return. Yes, it would be nice but if you only do something because you hope that you get it back in return then you’re doing it wrong. Do it because simply doing it makes YOU happy. And if it doesn’t? Well, shit son I haven’t a clue.

Last christmas3 was possibly one of the worst Christmasses I ever had to endure. It was a character building sort of period. And this year… I decided I would not let that happen. And the best way I know to get into the Christmas spirit is to bake. Now, it’s all well and good to bake for cookies but if I knew my motivation this year I knew I’d need a big push to get off my ass and actually bake cookies. I would have thrown a dinner party but my place is too small for that. I was going to throw a cocktail party but that’s been done. So I put a spin on it: Appetizers, Beverages and Cookies. You bring your own A & B and I’ll provide the C. And the Love will come naturally… and come it did4!

There was such a wonderful collection of people who attended that I can’t help but feel blessed to have such amazing people in my life. And before I leave you with the pictures, I’d just like to say a huge thank you to everyone who came out and filling my home with such love and cheer. Next time, let’s go paint-balling to balance things out ok?

Peekchures:

Photo courtesy of Dan

Photo courtesy of Lucy

Photo courtesy of Scotty

Photo courtesy of Chris

There may or may not be video evidence courtesy of Mr Sean Ward. Speaking of Mr Ward, did you know he’s putting on a great show on Monday December 20th5 – see the amazing flyer below for details! You can also click the flyer to go to the facebook event page!

Thanks again to the wonderful guests of #ABCme for giving me one of my favourite holiday memories to add to existing ones.

What are some of your favourite holiday memories?

Edited Dec 14 11:01pm: I forgot to add photo credits! Added now.
Footnotes:
  1. for life, not just one month[]
  2. for me anyway[]
  3. I gave you my heart, but the very next day you gave it away…. this year, to save me from tears I’ll give it to someone special…[]
  4. that’s what she said[]
  5. *ahem* That I may or may not be performing in[]