I can take it, trust me.

A lot of people are afraid. They’re so afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings that they never stop to think that they might be helping that person by telling them the truth.

I’m taking a break from breast cancer awareness to talk about something that has affected me since I was able to make friends1.

I’m a very understanding person; provided you give me something to understand. If not I’m not going to assume things for you. If someone doesn’t want to be my friend, I think they should just tell me. I don’t think they should pretend to be my friend when it suits them and then ignore me when I try and make contact.

I will admit I’m horrible at keeping in touch and I shouldn’t expect to be able to talk to someone whenever it tickles my fancy. But replying to an email is not that difficult, even if I haven’t called in months. Besides, why should I be the only one to call – its not like they’ve made any effort! I’ve left hundreds of combined voicemail, email and facebook messages for them and its more than what they’ve done. I think I at least deserve an answer when I ask you whether the reason you aren’t coming to a party I’m hosting is the distance.

I’m sure there’s something that irks me more than being ignored, but not at this very moment. And maybe I’m over-reacting and they’ll get around to responding to me eventually but they were quick enough to decline the invitation online; I was hoping for similar speed in a response. Maybe it’ll be easier if people know that I can take ‘rejection’ as long as you’re not crass about it. You can tell me you don’t want to be my friend, just don’t tell me you think I smell like puke2.

I don’t believe that everyone should be best friends with each other, but I do believe that everyone deserves to know the truth.

What do you think?

Footnotes:
  1. ok, maybe its not that early but you get my point right?[]
  2. if I don’t, if I do then you can tell me that but that doesn’t happen… very often[]

Flickr Friday: Chicago Airport

Chicago AirportWow, what a boring title. A lot of my older photos will have boring titles because I simply didn’t care – and I’ve been too lazy to change them. So you’re stuck with this one. This photo was taken when I had a 6+ hour layover in Chicago Airport on one of my many trips to Dublin, Ireland. I chose it for today’s Flickr Friday in celebration of the fact that I will be booking my trip to Dublin for New Year’s!

It’s not a long standing tradition, but it’s been a tradition since I met him in 2004 that our group of friends celebrates New Year’s by driving to another part of Ireland, rentind holiday homes and partying for 3-4 days. Since I had already gone over for a holiday in May, I didn’t think I was going to be going this New Year’s but his recent visit over made me realise that it was insane of me not to do so. We1 don’t have many more years before doing this sort of thing is out of the question. Once marriage and families come into the picture it’s harder to gather a group of our size and go away and party for 3 days straight.

Already this year, one couple from the group will not be able to make it since they’ll be in the U.S., and they’ll be sorely missed – but the show must go on. I only hope its worth it; I was originally planning on only going for 7 days but as it turns out the flights are cheaper if I stay for 10 days. Of course that means I’ll end up spending more money because I’ll be there longer – but hopefully it won’t be too bad.

Oops, I guess I should talk about the photo a little bit: I felt quite lucky getting this photo, and if you read the comment that afewscoops left on the photo page you’ll know why. It was taken in 2005 so security should have been strict, but I was still able to snap this beauty. Its not as clear as I would like it but I still like it. I hope you do too!

Footnotes:
  1. the group[]