When people surprise you

I’ve been meeting a lot of new people lately, and it’s so… refreshing. I feel like I’m in University all over again, but with more freedom than I did when I was actually in University. It’s pretty freeing to be able to talk about anything and everything with people who have no reason to judge you based on your past, because they simply don’t know it. There’s something about making new friends that’s so great, sort of like starting a new relationship; when you still have the chance to shape it into whatever you want.

When I was younger, I never really paid attention to how my actions in-the-right-now would affect my relationship with people in the long-run. For the most part, I had the tendency to choose1 romance over friendship. There, I said it. Remember all those posts where I wondered why I didn’t have any girl friends. After the last year and a half I’ve certainly realised how stupid I actually was2 for never trying hard enough.

You learn a lot about yourself when you meet new people who are genuinely interested in learning about you. The stories you tell and how you tell them, can show you a lot about yourself that you wouldn’t really learn otherwise. The things I’m learning about myself are definitely things I never imagined I’d be described as, yet I haven’t been disappointed yet3. Of course, there are some things that I know I need to work on but, at least I know.

Speaking of people surprising me; it’s wonderful when you find people who are in the same ‘place’ in their life as you and you can share things that you wouldn’t be able to share with anyone else. I’m excited about enjoying people’s company without thinking I’m in love with them. Not that this has been a problem in the past with girlfriends but rather that I tended to only have male friends and boyfriends so it was hard to see that line between just genuinely enjoying someone’s company, and being in love with them.

Someone once told me that they loved this age4, and I’m honestly beginning to believe them.

How do you feel about meeting/learning new people?

p.s. Happy Friday the 13th5!

Footnotes:
  1. what I thought to be[]
  2. instead of being ‘smart’ like I thought I was[]
  3. Thank goodness![]
  4. I’m 28[]
  5. my favourite day of any year[]

responses to “When people surprise you” 7

  1. I’m pretty introverted, so I have the tendency to keep the same few friends for long periods of time. Since I moved out of my comfort zone and to Toronto, I’ve met a lot more new people and befriended them. It still weirds me out to be hanging out with a group of people, and feel totally comfortable with them, and think that even a year ago, I didn’t know them.

  2. I’m at a point in my life that i need to meet new people. i’ve lived in pittsburgh for 2 years and the only people i’ve met are my boyfriend, and his friends who he has introduced me to. add a few coworkers and that’s my whole life. i really need to work on meeting new people and creating new friendships! you just happened to post this on a day that i’ve been struggling with this. you give me hope that i wont be friendless in this city forever!

  3. Yeah, it’s sort of like a support group when one meets quite a few people who feel like they do. I actually met someone today at my job that is really cool. I said, “Hey, we should hang out some time.” She gave me her phone number, and we might just chill this weekend. Yeah, life can be pretty cool like that. 🙂

  4. Oh that really sounds great. This is something I’m massively lacking in my life right now. Since I moved away I have only met a few people, but not properly and I don’t really have any friends here. Fortunately I’m the kind of person who doesn’t mind spending a lot of time alone, but I feel like I really need to meet some people here. I only ever see my friends when they come to visit (not very often) or when I go back home (slightly more often).

  5. I don’t think any of us really pay attention to our actions when we are young. It’s just part of being young. Now that we are older ( and hopefully wiser ) it’s nice to look back and shake our heads, and laugh at our antics. Believe me I have plenty to laugh at. 🙂

  6. Meeting new people is always interesting. I mean, at the worst of times your mind start playing all these games. What will they think of me? What image am I projecting? Am I projecting what I want people to see? Am I making the right impression?

    And so on, ad nauseum.

    I think you touched on something interesting. As much as other people are learning about you on these first encounters, often you also end up learning something new about yourself. Maybe you end up acting some way or doing something that you normally wouldn’t do. Meeting new people gives you an opportunity to step outside of your comfort zone.

    (It was nice meeting you, by the way)

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