Good deeds

This is still on my mind, so I thought I’d share an experience I had yesterday…

I was buying coffee in Kensington; a man came in to buy some candy. He commented that he was going to be nickel and diming [the cashier], today, to which she responded that it was fine.

I leaned over to him and asked if I could buy him something. He stated that he wouldn’t say no. So I bought him what he would normally buy, and he said he’d just add it to what he was going to buy anyway.

I was feeling particularly low yesterday and needed to do something for someone so I could feel at least a little human… They both made a big deal of it, but it only cost me $2.

But they both made such a big deal out of it… and it made me think about how that sort of thing probably just doesn’t happen enough. Mind you, that was the first opportunity I had to do something like that.

I wanted to share the story because I still can’t get over what a big deal they made of it. I’m not saying I think it should become a practice so common that we don’t even blink an eye, but the kind of praise I got from them for it was certainly more than I thought was warranted.

“Good deeds are only done when there’s a profit margin” – Prince Ea

His delivery is brilliant, but in case you’d rather read it:

The world is coming to an end
The air is polluted, the oceans contaminated
The animals are going extinct, the economy’s collapsed
Education is shot, police are corrupt
Intelligence is shunned and ignorance rewarded
The people are depressed and angry
We can’t live with each other and we can’t live with ourselves
So everyone’s medicated
We pass each other on the streets
And if we do speak it’s meaningless robotic communication
More people want 15 seconds of fame
Than a lifetime of meaning and purpose
Because what’s popular is more important than what’s right
Ratings are more important than the truth
Our government builds twice as many prisons than schools
It’s easier to find a Big Mac than an apple
And when you find the apple
It’s been genetically processed and modified
Presidents lie, politicians trick us
Race is still an issue and so is religion
Your God doesn’t exist, my God does and he is All-Loving
If you disagree with me I’ll kill you
Or even worse argue you to death
92% of songs on the radio are about sex
Kids don’t play tag, they play twerk videos
The average person watches 5 hours of television a day
And it’s more violence on the screen than ever before
Technology has given us everything we could ever want
And at the same time stolen everything we really need
Pride is at an all time high, humility, an all time low
Everybody knows everything, everybody’s going somewhere
Ignoring someone, blaming somebody
Not many human beings left anymore, a lot of human doings
Plenty of human lingerings in the past, not many human beings
Money is still the root of all evil
Yet we tell our kids don’t get that degree
The jobs don’t pay enough
Good deeds are only done when there’s a profit margin
Videos of the misfortunes of others go viral
We laugh and share them with our friends to laugh with us
Our role models today
60 years ago would have been examples of what not to be
There are states where people can legally be discriminated against
Because they were born a certain way
Companies invest millions of dollars hiring specialists to make Little girls feel like they need “make up” to be beautiful Permanently lowering their self esteem
Because they will never be pretty enough
To meet those impossible standards
Corporations tell us buy, buy, buy, get this, get that
You must keep up, you must fit in
This will make you happy, but it never does for long
So what can we do in the face of all of this madness and chaos?
What is the solution? We can love
Not the love you hear in your favorite song on the radio
I mean real love, true love, boundless love
You can love, love each other
From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed
Perform an act of kindness because that is contagious
We can be mindful during every interaction
Planting seeds of goodness
Showing a little more compassion than usual
We can forgive
Because 300 years from now will that grudge you hold against Your friend, your mother, your father have been worth it?
Instead of trying to change others we can change ourselves
We can change our hearts
We have been sold lies
Brainwashed by our leaders and those we trust
To not recognize our brothers and sisters
And to exhibit anger, hatred and cruelty
But once we truly love we will meet anger with sympathy
Hatred with compassion, cruelty with kindness
Love is the most powerful weapon on the face of the Earth
Robert Kennedy once said that
Few will have the greatness to bend history
But each of us can work to change a small portion of events
And in the total of all those act
Will be written in the history of a generation
So yes, the world is coming to an end
And the path towards a new beginning starts within you

It’s about celebrating change for the good, and inspiring more of it

Tomorrow is International Women’s Day. It has been celebrated on March 8th since the early 1900’s, but I first heard about it in my third year of University1.

International Women's Day

It’s the kind of day that makes you realize just how insignificant, or significant your actions can be. The theme for this year is The Gender Agenda: Gaining Momentum, and there are 129 events happening in Canada. There’s a fantastic list of events on the website, that you can sift through here. I like days like today because it makes you think about the bigger picture.

We are so blessed in this first world continent; that we can do things that we take for granted, like vote, drive, work for a living, go to school, wear what we want, walk where we want, eat, sit, basically do what we want, when we want. And sure, there is still a long way that we have to go, but it’s nice to see how far we’ve come.

Even still, we have a long way to go; as a human race we have a long way to go. And in the hopes of inspiring change in the right direction, I wanted to show you two of my favourite TED talks related to the subject.

In the first one – Tony Porter’s 2010 talk, ‘A call to men‘, he talks about how we need to step outside of the ‘man box’2.

“My liberation as a man is tied to your liberation as a woman.”

The second talk, I got to witness in person; SlutWalk co-founders Heather Jarvis & Sonya JF Barnett took the stage to bravely discuss some very difficult experiences3 they had to go through and some very important issues surrounding language, our attitudes and the change that needs to happen.

“With infected language we all the power to radically impact somebody’s life. The onus is on all of us.”

As much as I would have loved to embed those videos in this blog post, I couldn’t4. I hope you still learned something though, I did. And now, I shall leave you with a photo that didn’t have anything to do with International Women’s Day, but I do think it fits. It was taken at an event called, That Night in Toronto, held by MyCityLives at Loft4045 and it features a bunch of girls6 being ‘fierce’.


What do you think about International Women’s Day?

  1. that was 2004 []
  2. get your mind out of the gutter, he is not talking about man vagina []
  3. to put it lightly []
  4. this theme does not lend itself to embedded videos at all []
  5. Only one of the best venues in the city []
  6. including yours truly []