Good deeds

This is still on my mind, so I thought I’d share an experience I had yesterday…

I was buying coffee in Kensington; a man came in to buy some candy. He commented that he was going to be nickel and diming [the cashier], today, to which she responded that it was fine.

I leaned over to him and asked if I could buy him something. He stated that he wouldn’t say no. So I bought him what he would normally buy, and he said he’d just add it to what he was going to buy anyway.

I was feeling particularly low yesterday and needed to do something for someone so I could feel at least a little human… They both made a big deal of it, but it only cost me $2.

But they both made such a big deal out of it… and it made me think about how that sort of thing probably just doesn’t happen enough. Mind you, that was the first opportunity I had to do something like that.

I wanted to share the story because I still can’t get over what a big deal they made of it. I’m not saying I think it should become a practice so common that we don’t even blink an eye, but the kind of praise I got from them for it was certainly more than I thought was warranted.

responses to “Good deeds” 7

  1. I’ve done a lot of research into that type of thing. It seems that we humans require that kind of praise, we do these things because we want to feel good about ourselves. One of the authors called it an act of selfishness. It is really interesting reading. However, regardless of what they say our “agenda” may be, I think there should be more of it.

    I am the same way. Not often, because I have been taken for a “ride” on more than one occasion. But, I think that if it makes you feel good, go ahead and do it. 🙂


    Here is the flip side to that scenario so that you can see where I’m coming from when I say “not too often.”

    1. I’ve been there: being taken for a ride, but I don’t believe in letting it colour me jaded. I think that’s part of the problem we’re facing now… too many of us feel like we’ve given all we can give and so we start being the negative ones – but the ones we end up acting negatively towards end up being those who have never done anything negative to us and then it just creates this wave… and it comes back around, you know?

  2. Did it end up making you feel better or worse? I don’t like getting thanks for something like that. At times I don’t help because I like to just do it for myself, to feel I did something nice.

    1. It made me feel good, until the moment they made a big deal out of it. Then I felt good, but awkward. I’d do it again though. Especially since I’ve spent the last three years feeling like I’m ‘nickle and diming’ a cafe barista, myself.

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