She doesn’t have to be perfect

I learnt a long time ago that there is no such thing as perfect. As much as we I throw that word around, I know that the existence of the idea is limited to my perception. But that’s okay. I learnt how to accept things for what they are through my Mum. She gives new meaning to ‘giving without expecting anything in return.’

This Mother’s Day, for the first time I didn’t use money to try and show my Mum how much I appreciated everything that she does for us and everything that makes her who she is. Instead, I made lunch and we just talked. I did buy her a potted plant, but it wasn’t an expensive plant. And for once, she didn’t complain that I was spending money on her. And it was partly the point, making sure she had nothing to complain about. She loved the meal: Marinated Salmon Seared in a Pepper Crust, Garlic Potato Cakes, and Green Peppers & Cherry Tomatoes sauteed in a Balsamic Vinagrette Dressing. And I know she enjoyed being able to take it easy for the day (Dad took us all out to dinner).

Mother’s day is great and all, but this year I’m glad I was able to do something significant that didn’t require surprises or presents and the like. Every since my return from the Emerald Isle, our family has been a more of a functional one and while it’s entirely possible that it’s only temporary… I know we’re all glad.

There are a million words I could use to describe my mother, ranging from annoying to wonderful… but the most important thing I could ever say about her is that I will eternally be grateful for her love. The four of us may not express love in mushy ways outside of special occasions but there is a lot of love there, and it always shows in the little things. She has taught me how to love without barriers, to love without fear, to (sorry to quote a cliche) love like I’ve never been hurt before and I’m sure when I’m ready I will be able to give the same kind of love to a family of my own. Or so I hope.

What did you do for Mother’s Day?

responses to “She doesn’t have to be perfect” 8

  1. Awh Chris, don’t worry I’m sure your Mum understands. Glad you were able to spend some time with your the Mum-in-law though. That’s something I haven’t done in a long time either = go to church…

  2. I still have not contacted my mom about mothers day. She’s so difficult to get a hold of sometimes. ;(

    I don’t go to church anymore, but my mother n law asked that I go with her to mass on Mothers Day. I did, and afterward we had breakfast together. It was simple, but she was happy.

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  3. Wow Joe, that sounds awesome… I would have loved to get all those things! Sounds like Mother’s Day is Christmas in Spring over at your house 🙂

    CK – Aw I’m sure it’s hard that you’re over in the UK while you’re Mum’s at home. Glad you still celebrate it though… the last time I tried to greet someone’s Mum Happy Mother’s Day in Dublin when it wasn’t mother’s day there I nearly had my head bitten off!

    Jillian – Yes, they are! I’m glad you were able to have a busy Mother’s Day. I thought of you when I was writing my post but I wasn’t sure if I should bring it up. *big hug*

    Canucklehead – Yum… when are you going make those chocolate covered bacon thingys? Thanks… really don’t know what’s going on with this so called ‘black box’ that pops up out of no where… and then disappears just as unexplaindedly…

    Rudy – Yeah, I only sent an e-card while I was in Ireland last year. But we did have a nice conversation on the phone as well. I know you do and I’m sure she knows it too 🙂

  4. My mom is 3000 miles away, so it’s hard for me to buy her stuff. All I did was gave her a call on mother’s day. The conversation wasn’t that long either. It’ll be nice if I can bring her gifts, or just to sit down and chat for a while. Maybe one day she’ll want to stay with us in the States.

    I still love her just the same.

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  5. Well, I made brunch for my wife, son, sister, mom, nana and the in-laws. Nine in total — needless to say I’m still recovering. I won’t bore you with all the details of the menu but you know bacon was served!
    ps – your blog is perfect!

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  6. Aren’t Moms great??

    I was with Jan’s family for Mother’s Day… so I was too occupied to think about my mom (and her loss). But I tend to work through stuff, so I’m sure it will hit me out of nowhere… like in the grocery store or when I’m buying porn… you know, during my normal activities.

    But I’m glad you guys had a good time, and that meal you cooked SOUNDS effin awesome!

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  7. Me? I called home to wish her Happy Mothers’ Day. She sounded rather happy to hear from me. Eh… come to think of it, perhaps I should have sent something back…

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  8. My mom, I got her what she asked for–a bike seat, and a water bottle and bottle holder for her new bike a card and home made cards from the grand kids.

    For my wife, iPod holder for running, workout clothes, chocolates, chocolate covered strawberries, pedicure gift certificate and nail polish. Oh, and a card and the home made things/cards from the kids.

    You night with the mom sounds like a good one. That food sounds awesome.

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