As I grow older and we,
Slowly become friends,
I realise what defines me,
As a girl, as a woman,
can be traced back to you.
Your warmth and care,
Your goofy jokes,
Always make me smile.
Its a treasure to know you,
More so to love you,
Even still to be loved by you,
I hope you always know,
My brother and I,
will always need you.
Happy Birthday Mummy.
I learnt a long time ago that there is no such thing as perfect. As much as we I throw that word around, I know that the existence of the idea is limited to my perception. But that’s okay. I learnt how to accept things for what they are through my Mum. She gives new meaning to ‘giving without expecting anything in return.’
This Mother’s Day, for the first time I didn’t use money to try and show my Mum how much I appreciated everything that she does for us and everything that makes her who she is. Instead, I made lunch and we just talked. I did buy her a potted plant, but it wasn’t an expensive plant. And for once, she didn’t complain that I was spending money on her. And it was partly the point, making sure she had nothing to complain about. She loved the meal: Marinated Salmon Seared in a Pepper Crust, Garlic Potato Cakes, and Green Peppers & Cherry Tomatoes sauteed in a Balsamic Vinagrette Dressing. And I know she enjoyed being able to take it easy for the day (Dad took us all out to dinner).
Mother’s day is great and all, but this year I’m glad I was able to do something significant that didn’t require surprises or presents and the like. Every since my return from the Emerald Isle, our family has been a more of a functional one and while it’s entirely possible that it’s only temporary… I know we’re all glad.
There are a million words I could use to describe my mother, ranging from annoying to wonderful… but the most important thing I could ever say about her is that I will eternally be grateful for her love. The four of us may not express love in mushy ways outside of special occasions but there is a lot of love there, and it always shows in the little things. She has taught me how to love without barriers, to love without fear, to (sorry to quote a cliche) love like I’ve never been hurt before and I’m sure when I’m ready I will be able to give the same kind of love to a family of my own. Or so I hope.
What did you do for Mother’s Day?
I know we’ve had our differences in the past, particularly when I was a troubled teen… but you stuck by me. And for that I thank you. As I grow older and get just a smidge wiser, I realise more and more just what a wonderful person you are and how lucky I am to have such a strong, caring and selfless person as my Mother.
I also want to say that while I don’t have many regrets in my life (because I insist on not having any) there is one thing I can’t help but regret, and that’s how careless I’ve been with money. So much so that now as an adult, I am unable to help you and Dad financially like you continually do with your family – even though you don’t really have enough for yourself. I only hope that it’s not too late for me to get back on track to following in your footsteps.
But for now… I just want to wish you all the best that this day and year can bring. Because you only deserve the best.