‘Tis a good time for a clothing swap!

It’s true, I stopped blogging for a while. There was a lot going on my life that I have promised [myself] I would not blog about anymore because it hurts too many other people so I took an unannounced hiatus from writing. Right, now that’s out of the way…

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Some years ago, before one of my favourite people moved to Ottawa, one of her friends invited me to a Clothing Swap. At the time the concept was foreign to me but I fell in-love with the idea as soon as I learned more about it. Even though they’ve been around for ages, I’m sure there are some people who have yet to learn about the wonderful thing that is a Clothing Swap.

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A clothing swap is a party of sorts; a shopping event where no one spends any money and hopefully walks away with a nourished soul1, a full heart and new previously-loved items for their closet that they can be proud of. I’ve been to a lot of clothing swaps and I’m so excited to be able to host one again this weekend.

Here are a few of my favourite pieces that I’ve ever gotten at a clothing swap, that I may or may not be giving up this weekend:

Pink 80s skirt Gorgeous Asian style top The best scarf

Have you ever been to a clothing swap before? Do you have a favourite item that you got from a clothing swap?

Footnotes:
  1. if you believe in that sort of stuff[]

From the archives:
So You Didn’t Get Kissed at Midnight

Will I ever love again? It’s a question that has been on my mind for a while now. It’s the question that led me to go on my mancation1.

The honest answer right now is: I simply don’t know.

I find myself avoiding thinking about things that have happened2. It’s unlike me. The moniker fragileheart wasn’t coined because I wanted people to walk on eggshells with me. It’s supposed to remind me that I wear my heart on my sleeve and that I like to feel things because it makes me feel alive. Finding myself running away from memories that make me smile is a little unnerving.

I don’t think I know how to be in a relationship. It’s been so long since I’ve been in a real relationship that I don’t know that I’ll ever manage to maintain one again. My last real, meaningful, mutually respectful relationship ended in 2004. Everything else after that I consider a mess. Yes, even my relationship with the Irish boy3.

Then again, I’ve gotten better at maintaining deeper and more meaningful friendships and I think that every good relationship is built on a solid foundation of friendship so maybe there’s hope for me yet.

Oh whatever. Maybe you4 were right; what was it that you said, sir? Something along the lines of, “You’d make a great mistress [but not a wife]“. And yes, I still think about it to this day.

Sometimes, you just need to blog things out loud.

Footnotes:
  1. vacation from men, and more importantly – meaningless sex[]
  2. like NYE[]
  3. that was probably the biggest mess[]
  4. I do not even know if you read my blog[]

She’s a drama queen, if you know what I mean

If you don’t know the lyrics I’ve stolen my title from, then you need to consult the Googles. Though I’m not talking about the song in this here post. I want to talk to you about Savory Entertainment’s latest production, The Bootlegger’s Wife; A one-woman dramatic stage play created and performed by the one and only Victoria Murdoch.

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A southern Ontario Bonnie & Clyde story for the ages; lovers and business partners Bessie Starkman and Rocco “King of the Bootleggers” Perri, came together to build Canada’s largest rumrunning empire. Known for her quick wit, and shrewd business sense, Bessie collected the money and called the shots…until it backfired.

The play is set to premiere at this summer’s London & Hamilton Fringe but there are two exciting previews you can be a part of if you hurry! All you have to do is go on over to her Fund What You Can Campaign Page and see what you can donate. As for the two events I speak of, they are1:

Event #1: Garden Gala/Tour Launch Party (May 24th @ “Murdoch Manor” – South Etobicoke)

A prohibition-themed party hosted by “Bessie,” where you’ll be entertained by a historical storyteller (Special Guest Daniel Cumerlato of Haunted Hamilton!) as well as enjoy a sample performance from the show!

Event #2: VIP Preview Performance/Talk Back (May 30th @ Imperial Pub – Downtown Toronto)

The world premiere performance of Bootlegger’s Wife followed by an intimate talk-back/Q&A with the creative team joined by a historical expert!

Both of these events have limited tickets available, and are only $25 each. After seeing what she’s done with Dairy-Free Love, I can’t wait to see her bring Bessie Starkman to life2.

Will we see you there?

Footnotes:
  1. these descriptions are in fact copied right off of her FWYC page[]
  2. As an added incentive, I should tell you that I will be your hostess for the evening of May the 30th at Imperial Pub[]

Everyday is Mother’s Day!

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I haven’t kept it a secret1 that my Mum and I didn’t always get along. We simply rubbed each other the wrong way, and when I was younger it was harder for me to act like a decent human being when she upset me.

I think that our relationship is so important though; the lessons I’ve learned in trying to get to a point where we can be friends are some of the most important life lessons I’ve learned. I’m sure there will always be something to learn, too. I’m just grateful we’re at the point we’re at today.

I know that there are so many different ways that life could have turned out, so in my adult life I’m trying to fix the bad habits I picked up when I was a teenager. I try to call my parents for no reason, other than, to talk. I try to visit them as often as I can; lucky for me this isn’t hard since they live in the same city. I try to be a decent human being every day of my life; someone who they can be proud of.

It’s a privilege to have a Mum, let alone a Mum who I can call a friend2.

I love you Mummy. Thank you for all you’ve done for us.

Happy Mother’s Day <3

Footnotes:
  1. on this blog[]
  2. and such a cute one to boot[]

It’s All Happening: At The Garrison during Canadian Music Week

It’s finally here! Canadian Music Week used to happen in March but they’re changing things up and this year it’s taking place between May 6th to the 10th. As usual, I’ve signed up to be a Stage Manager for the Festival. It’s something that I look forward to every year, and I’m delighted to be celebrating my 5th year at the same venue where I met Garrett1.

Every year, I am super pumped to be working with all the bands that I get to work with and this year is no different. I always try to check out a Band’s sound the week before the festival so I know what kind of a night I am in for; it also helps me get a feel for the band and their members, and how I can relate to them. You should give these fine folk a listen, and you should definitely come by The Garrison this week and enjoy some quality entertainment.

 

Wednesday May 7th

M for Montreal, Wavelength & CMW Co-Present: “M” For…

$10 Cover or all wristbands accepted

DOORS OPEN @ 8:30PM

9PM

10PM

11PM

Moonwood

CMW14 Moonwood

Mannerisms

CMW14 Mannerisms

MaicaMia

CMW14 MaicaMia sq

Listen

Listen

Listen

12AM

1AM

Mas Aya

CMW14 Mas Aya

Mozart’s Sister

CMW14 Mozarts Sister

Listen

Listen

Watch

 

Thursday May 8th

Reeperbahn Festival & CMW Co-Present

$15 Cover or all wristbands accepted

DOORS OPEN @ 7:30PM

8PM

9PM

10PM

Saidah Baba Talibah

CMW14 Saidah Baba Talibah

No Sinner

CMW14 No Sinner

Thomas D’Arcy

CMW14 Thomas DArcy

Listen

Listen

Listen

Watch

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11PM

12AM

1AM

CATL

CMW14 CATL sq

The King Khan & BBQ Show

CMW14 The King Khan & BBQ Show

Green Rays

CMW14 Green Rays

Listen

Listen

Listen

Watch

 

Friday May 9th

Breton & CMW Co-Present

$15 Cover or all wristbands accepted

DOORS OPEN @ 8:00PM

8:30PM

9PM

10PM

Adi Ulmansky

CMW14 Adi Ulmansky sq

BESTiE

CMW14 BESTiE

Wolf Saga

CMW14 Wolf Saga

Listen

Listen

Listen

Watch

 

11PM

12AM

Step Rockets

CMW14 Step Rockets

Breton

CMW14 Breton sq

Listen

Listen

Watch

Watch

 

Saturday May 10th

HillyDilly.com’s CMW Showcase

$10 Cover or all wristbands accepted

DOORS OPEN @ 8:30PM

9PM

9:45PM

10:30PM

Hoodlem

CMW14 Hoodlem

Sons et. Al

CMW14 Sons et al.

!XX! (Sean Leon & Daniel Caesar)

CMW14 Sean Leon

CMW14 Daniel Caesar

Listen

Listen

Listen: Sean Leon

 

11:30PM

12:45AM

1:30AM

Waldo

CMW14 Waldo

BASECAMP

CMW14 BASECAMP

Nightizm

CMW14 Nightizm

Listen

Listen

Listen

What are you hoping to check out at CMW this year?

 

Footnotes:
  1. yeah, we all know that’s not his real name but that is and will always be his name on this blog[]

Giving up drinking for lent

Lent? What’s lent? I suppose I should deal with that question first. Easter’s over, and I did a thing for 40 days before Easter that I’d like to talk about. So what is Lent? According to the ‘pedia of Wiki:

Lent (LatinQuadragesima – English: Fortieth) is a solemn religious observance in the liturgical calendar of many Christian denominations that begins on Ash Wednesday and covers a period of approximately six weeks before Easter Day. The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer through prayerpenancerepentance of sins, almsgiving,atonement and self-denial.”

There’s a lot more to it that you can read on the site; growing up with Roman Catholic upbringing meant that lent was a time when I denied myself something that I loved the most to prove my Love to God. As I grew older and decided that the church, and organized religion wasn’t for me, lent became more about maintaining moderation. As Oscar Wilde said, “Everything in moderation, including moderation.” I really think there’s something to that.

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image credit: No Alcohol by EinnaS on deviantART

When I was younger1, I would give up chocolate. That was hard. I might even say it was harder than giving up drinking. I mean, I can drink a lot but I don’t *need* to drink a lot. I’ve gotten into the habit of drinking everyday, and that’s the very reason I’ve decided to give it up for lent in the first place, but I don’t need to do it everyday.

By giving it up though, I achieve the same level of tolerance that lets me drink a small amount to experience the optimum relaxation that I seek when I reach for a glass in the first place. In the past2, it was more about denying myself the pleasure of eating my favourite thing in the whole world3. Now though, it’s more about remaining the kind of person who can function well without too many crutches4.

I’m being more lenient with myself this year, and I am finding it quite liberating5. Last year, I only allowed myself one free day. It was someone’s birthday and I didn’t want to be a wet blanket talking about moderation and what not, so I had a few and instead opted not to celebrate with a drink on Easter Sunday6. Last year, I equated alcohol to chocolate and this year I’ve realized it isn’t so much the substance but the circumstance, and the emotions tied to the need for a drink.

It was trying. Not just because I had made the decision to give up the drink; rather, it was a pretty trying point in my life. There were all sorts of problems – money, love, health, you name it. There were hints of problems in every category, at best. I’ll be honest, I stopped a few days early. Easter was on April 20th and I had my first drink on April 15th. Mind you, I didn’t drink every night until Easter after that point. April 15th was a very special occasion to me, and it deserved a little celebratory drink. I had a couple of other days of drinks in there, but as I had previously mentioned – they were to celebrate birthdays, and other such special occasions.

It’s certainly an exercise that I plan to continue in the future. I think that I rely on external relief far too often, and that is simply not healthy. If I need to deprive myself of something like this, once in a while, to remind myself that I have it in me to get through whatever it is that I’m going through then so be it. At least I have the cohonas to actually do it, right?

What did you give up for Lent?

Footnotes:
  1. you know, before I could drink all the booze I wanted[]
  2. when I was giving up chocolate[]
  3. at the time[]
  4. easier said than done, right?[]
  5. well, who woulda thunk![]
  6. the day that one would normally be able to resume whatever it was that was given up for lent[]
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