Best friend
What does it mean to be a best friend? It means sharing everything, right down to your last thoughts of the day. It means knowing that when you’re home on a Friday night, there will be someone available to call and invite over for a last minute movie. It means that no matter how stupid, you’ll know someone will listen to your whining.
Being someone’s best friend doesn’t mean thinking they’re the best person all the time. It doesn’t mean that you’ll always agree with them either. It doesn’t mean that you’ll always like her choice for a boyfriend. But it does mean that she can always count on you to1 be there for her.
As I grew older, I realised what I had been doing wrong all this time when looking for a ‘best friend’, I was looking for someone I could stand to be with at all times. Someone I’d never fight with, or have to fight with. But obviously, that’s impossible… being bestfriends is not about being able to avoid arguments, its still being there even after things take a turn for the worse.
We haven’t quite we’ve found each other yet, but I’m pretty sure we’ve already met. There are a few contenders, and I’m not limiting myself to one, I’m just glad I’ve finally realised what it means to be or have a bestfriend. I used to think it was as easy as growing up with someone and having something in common2 with them. But I now know that like anything that is worthwhile it requires work, dedication, and determination.
I’m sure there are many reasons my life has turned out the way that it has, and I’d like to think that the reason I focused so much on ‘boys’ when I was younger was because I wasn’t ready for a responsibility as big as keeping a bestfriend. I may be too ‘old’ to have come to this realisation, but I know I’m ready.
Do you have a bestfriend? How long have you been bestfriends? What makes that person your bestfriend? Will you be bestfriends forever?3
November 7th, 2008 at 00:07
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October 7th, 2008 at 01:04
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August 29th, 2008 at 15:48
Silly woman…of course I remember your purple hair, and the dream of you riding a white stallion in the snow with your hair streaming in the wind – I am the walrus… and I remember everything .-)
Greggys latest..Over…
August 29th, 2008 at 12:56
@Karen: It’s difficult when you and your childhood bestfriend don’t grow together and instead grow apart. At least you’re still friends who exchange Christmas Cards, I’m sure you still have a special place in your heart for her, and she for you. Having your husband for a bestfriend is a wonderful gem
August 29th, 2008 at 11:39
I had a best friend growing up from 4th grade through high school. We really never argued, hung out practically every day together and shared everything. Now we only exchange Christmas cards.
My best friend now is my husband.
Karen, author of “My Funny Dad, Harry”s latest..What Does Your Wedding Dress Say About You?
August 28th, 2008 at 09:31
@Peri: Your wife is lovely
I can see why she’s your bestfriend. And thanks for telling me your password is
******* now we’re all bestfriends!
@Greggy: I can’t believe you rememberd my purple hair! I had forgotten about it! Man what a crazy teenager I was. You’re so right though, patience is definitely required in acquiring and maintaining a ‘bestfriendship’
@Atrais (Oyvind): I’m sure you two will be best friends forever. It’s so nice having that one person isn’t it? Like I said on the EC forum: Your wife is lucky… you’re both lucky to have each other!
@Cherry: 25 years is a long time
You guys could celebrate the Silver anniversary of your friendship!
@Trench: See, I knew you had to have one!!